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Relationships; Protecting & Opening Your Heart

My bestie. My ride or die. My day one. My BFF. Those are some appreciative, loving slangs that I don’t see myself using on anyone other than my sister and a future lover. Here’s the thing behind that – I am scared of trust. I am scared of wholly trusting someone who is not my sister, brother, father, mother or romantic partner (someone who has shown so much love to me to the point that I could take him in as family). This fear resulted from others’ stories of betrayal and also my personal experiences of disappointment from people that I trusted. Fear of disappointment resides within every individual. However, it should not hinder us from being the best people that we can be. We are all human and no human being is lacking of imperfection. I have failed people, and people have failed me too. My encounter with imperfection and disappointments in friendships have caused me to be patient in my relationships with amazing people. I try to reward some of my friends who I really appreciate. Trust me, I don’t use the technique of let’s share secrets with each other to keep my relationships blooming. However, I organize meet ups with them, call them non-extreme, but sweet and appreciative romantic names like Boo, Honey, Darling; I invite them to events that I will be attending. Also, thanks to technology, I check up on my good friends often. Good friendships are amazing. They boost your happiness, give you positive energy when you feel down and they empower you to keep being who you are as staying true to you has attracted some wonderful people into your life. Don’t be an Island, make friends, be good to your friends, be patient with the ones that make you happy and move away from those that make you sad and probably, make you doubt yourself. Yesterday, my sister and I had lunch with a friend, Omolade, who we had not seen in a while. We had lots of genuine bursts of laughter and it was a bonding moment. It was so admirable to see that a friendship that was built in a short period has stood the test of time, and holds a great deal of love. My sister still asks me in awe – How come she (Omolade) loves me like this? There must always be angels amidst a mixed up, confusing crowd.

My Questions For You? – Does  your fear of betrayal/disappointment restrict you in your relationships with people? – What are some things that you hope to do to build relationships with people? (Personally, I aim to start greeting my neighbours!)

Love & Peace,

Chiamaka.        

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Looking Beyond Our Imperfections and Sharing Our Truths

I was recently editing a blogpost with the help of my sister when I suddenly thought: You know, I am sometimes guilty of doing the things that I tell my blog readers not to do. For example, I was thinking, sometimes I do not forgive easily; sometimes I dwell on things that make me sad. After taking a short guilt trip, I realized something that I had to mention. I told my sister: I share my truths with others not because I am perfect, but because I know that my truths can help people including myself. My definition of “my truths” is – things that the instructor knows are factual and helpful to mankind, and some of these things, the instructor, in his/her human nature may not be perfect at adhering to. I learn from my truths. I use them often in my life, but I am not perfect at applying them at all times. Imperfection does not mean that we should hold back realities from others. I may not be 100% positive everyday but I know that living that way or close to that way, will pay off richly on the human body both physically and mentally. Thus, I will keep sharing my truth that everyone should let happiness and positivity in, and try to discard negative thoughts. Personally, there are many times when other people’s truths have healed me, and motivated me. Some people share their truths through their books, their quotes, their openness on their social networks e.t.c. Like I wrote on Twitter at the peak of my inner revelation of ‘sharing my truths’, – Share your truths with others, not because you are perfect, but because people need to know that no one is perfect and that they are not alone in their imperfections. – Your truths will uplift others. They will help people realize that imperfections are human and that improvement is a possibility. – Share your truths, and share the love that dwells within you. Be a light to others. A good point to note is that you should not share all your truths with everyone and/or just anyone. Remember that the world we live in has its fair share of disappointments and betrayals. Share those truths that you are not afraid to share, with – family, friends and acquaintances. However, for those truths that you are not very comfortable with letting out, and for truths which you only want a limited number of people to know, you should talk to a professional. For example – a psychologist, a religious leader, a counsellor. These individuals are expected to handle people’s personal matters with anonymity, so it is okay to trust them. This blog has been a medium for me to share my truths with the world, for a month now. A month today was when I established and started Blurred Creations! 😀 Through this blog, I have been able to share my passions, concerns, life experiences and ideas with the public. Get open. Share your truths to inspire, to educate, to encourage, to heal, to motivate. Happy birthday to our blog – Blurred Creations! Thank you SOOO much my dear followers and readers for being with me, Chiamaka, on this journey for the past month!:)
My questions for you?

– Why do you share your truths with others?

– What do you gain from people sharing their truths with you or the public?

Love,

Chiamaka.

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