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My Silent Salute: Remembering Cpl. Nathan Cirillo

This week has been a sad week for people living in Canada. Some of us were held in lockdown for our own safety as a gunman raided the Parliament buildings in Ottawa. Before his death, the attacker killed a young soldier who was guarding the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier at the War Memorial.

Since Wednesday, like many other Canadians, I have not stopped thinking about the Late Corporal Nathan Cirillo who we lost to the senseless attacks of October 22nd, 2014. The soldier was only 24 years old and was in his line of duty when he was fatally shot. I am heartbroken and so, with hope that expressing how I really feel about Cpl. Nathan Cirillo’s death, will help me heal faster, I have decided to write my tribute to a hero.

The Silent Salute

When I heard that the soldier who was shot had died, I felt sad. Further details had not emerged about who this soldier was but it was saddening that a man peacefully undertaking his task would be shot by someone who had decided to wake up early in the morning to ensue violence. Finally, the soldier was identified as Corporal Nathan Cirillo.

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I must admit that when your picture had emerged, I transitioned to being heartbroken. You were very handsome, looked so full of life and maybe even more painful was the fact that you were just 24. I was reminded of how the men and women in uniform put their lives on the line to protect their fellow country people. I wished that I could participate in a ceremony where I will be rendering salutes and march pasts to you alongside your fellow soldiers, but I do not qualify to do that. So, I have chosen to honour you in my own way, in my quiet time, and to the best of my ability by putting in writing my own salute, I call it my Silent Salute.

It is unquestionably a hard time for your family. A mother has lost her son, a young child has become fatherless, friends have lost their friend and colleagues have lost their colleague. Your fellow Canadians are heartbroken and other countries mourn with us.

Corporal, your name has been the headline of news networks in Canada; Facebook and Twitter have gone off with tributes; Canadian flags are flying in half-mast in your honour here in Canada and in some other countries; your name is flying from country to country. People across the world are learning of the hero, Cpl. Nathan Cirillo. Yesterday, you were taken back to your hometown of Hamilton, Ontario via the Highway of Heroes. I read that as your journey back home to Hamilton from Ottawa begun, people applauded you. You deserved it. Also, Hamiltonians waited to receive you. Fellow soldiers saluted you at your arrival.

You see, you are adored. We realize that even in our shock and in our heartbreak, we must honour you, the man who sacrificed for some of us on that fateful Wednesday. You were at the forefront for all Canadians.

My hope is that in the coming days, your family members and all who are mourning your death (including myself) will remember your bon vivant smile, your service, and be easily consoled. I hope that we will continue to honour your memory and appreciate our men and women in uniform. I can imagine that when your son is older, he will continually be reminded that his father was a hero.

Corporal Cirillo, I wish you a happy stay in your new community. I hope that now you have your own Defender and you are in a place where you will hurt no more. Amen.

– Chiamaka

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With Dreaming Big Comes ‘Stress’?

When contemplating on the usual but very crucial advice – ‘Follow your passion”, it is possible that you ask yourself – “But what exactly is my passion?” You probably stress over that question once in a while and even when things are already going good for you. It is okay to feel that way. People get hit with lots of ideas and opportunities, emerging out of the blues and at intervals. At such times, it is irresistible to think that you do not have just one path to follow in life. And that is true. Versatility seems to be a part of the human nature. You many not tap into it but it is there for you.

Dreamers and hard workers continually open themselves up to new opportunities for advancement, consciously or unconsciously. And they pay attention to every new talent that they feel may have been acquired. When you have multiple items on your to-do list, it is possible that you get stressed thinking of how to prioritize and get done with some of the tasks. You may also try to figure out what items can be scratched off the list. That is the same procedure that should be applied to your never-ending Idea and Goal agenda. You should see creativity and the ability to learn new things as gifts not burdens (they could seem to be burdens at some points, but hey, there is something called eustress, meaning good stress).

You do not have to tap into all your ideas. You need to first analyze – which ones do I actually want to start with (that is, which ideas and/or opportunities are my most passionate about, at the moment), which ones can I carry-out successfully with the resources that I have at the moment, do I have enough resources? … The analysis can go on and on and on. Basically, you need to select patiently and thoroughly.

However, do not shut out the possibility of one idea being useful in the long-run. Goals change, new ideas emerge. Do not limit yourself to what you have always wanted to be or what someone else wanted you to be. You can be an engineer and then decide to switch to commercial farming because your passion is beginning to shift to another field. I wanted to be a gynaecologist since I was in elementary school, till the end of high school. For me, it was Medicine or nothing else. Today, I am working towards a Bachelor’s degree in Pubic Administration and I am loving it.

Follow your dreams of today, do your best, and do not shut yourself out to other possibilities to utilize your skills and even help people in the process. When you feel overwhelmed with ideas, acknowledge that you are experiencing a growth process; feel lucky and rate your ideas. Start with the ones that you feel are urgent and/or are of greater importance, at the moment. Also, whenever you feel stressed with all the opportunities and ideas that you have to evaluate and choose from, you can consider speaking to someone who you feel can help you make the right decisions. You can even consult my help. Feel free to leave me a question in the comment section, or you could follow the link below to request a call with me, for free: https://clarity.fm/chiamakamogo/BIZCOACHING1

Love & best of luck,

Chiamaka.

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I Am Thankful For …

It’s now Thanksgiving weekend in Canada! This is that time of the year when we ask each other, “What are you thankful for?” So, it is not just a time for celebrating because that is what Thanksgiving weekend is meant for, but it also a time to reflect on why we are celebrating. I did some reflecting myself and I will like to share with you all, some of the reasons why I am thankful.

I am thankful for:

my parents. I have incredibly supportive parents who constantly communicate with me and constantly remind me that I can achieve whatever I want to achieve. They remind me that I am good enough. They are always there – when I fall, fail and when I succeed. I am also thankful that they have continued to live in marital bliss for nearly 30 years! Below is a picture of the two love birds, two of the most selfless and supportive people in my life:

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my siblings. In Whitney Houston’s song, the Greatest Love of All, the incredible songstress of blessed memory sings, “Everybody’s searching for a hero. People need someone to look up to.” Everyday, I continue to look for inspiration through strangers, acquaintances and friends. However, there is this amazing feeling that I get when I take a moment to reflect on the great things that my siblings do. I begin to feel so blessed to have people so close by, who are chasing after their dreams, achieving their goals and people who reinforce that voice in me that says “You too can do it.”.

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good friends. I have some very uplifting friends. When I use the word uplifting to describe friends, I am talking about people who make me so happy when I meet up with them; people who care about me and ask how life is going, in general; people who have highlighted some of their dreams and are working on their path to success; and people who I can have intellectual conversations with (trust me it is never just an intellectual conversation, there is usually a lot of laughing involved, just the way I like it haha).

the voice inside of me that kept pushing me to create this blog. Yup, creating this blog took a lot of persuasion. Persuasion from my inner voice/spirit or from God. I knew that I should have a blog that will be a podium for me to advocate for social justice and create awareness on social justice issues. I knew that I should have a blog where I will also be writing about entrepreneurship. However, I did not want to have something else to commit to, but I am glad that I listened to that inner voice and now, I am happily committed to this blog.

readers of this blog. It is so encouraging when you take yourself out of your comfort zone and there are people who are following you on your journey, enriching and enlightening themselves and also cheering for you. I appreciate all of you who read posts on this blog and thank YOU to those of you who have read a post(s) and shared your positive thoughts with me.

people that advocate for the poor, the marginalized and all who are treated unfairly. You all inspire me and reinforce in me that thought that the world can indeed become a better place.

THANK YOU ALL!

Now, it is your turn to tell me who and what you are thankful for, in the comment section:)

Wishing all my readers living in Canada, a very happy Thanksgiving weekend!

Love and Thanks,

Chiamaka.

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An Uplifting Kind of Randomness

Random acts of kindness in reality, entail everything from that feeling of weirdness, to the rush of happiness, to the feeling of being loved. Also, they are bold acts by the person rendering them. You can probably trace back the time that someone raised their voice in a public space to compliment your look and then, continued with his/her business; someone made space for you to have a seat, on a jam-packed bench; you encountered a shop attendant that was so energetic and polite and seemed so happy to be of service to you, no matter how long it took for you to make a purchase decision.

There’s usually that “Wow!” feeling, that perplexity that coincides with happiness because something that you had not expected occurred and made you happy.

It must be hard sometimes, to muster the confidence to compliment a stranger or help a stranger out, but random acts of kindness are responses to our humanity. You have probably been in a situation where you saw someone in need and you were shy/scared to reach out, but you eventually did. Humanity persuades us to be the best people that we can be to others, and the decision to answer that call depends on us. A common saying is that – The good you do will come back to you. Possibly an even more common principle, is Karma – What goes around will surely come back around. I believe and I have experienced those ideas.

Random acts of kindness can be as simple as sending a positive message to a friend; can be donating funds or other kinds of materials for a good cause. A random act of kindness can be you sharing your ideas with people that are starting out in a career that you have expertise in; peacefully confronting those who are smearing an individual’s character with false words; standing up for the timid; being patient and listening to someone’s stories of sadness and pain.

It is true that every one has a “battle” that he or she is fighting. We can uplift each other through random acts of kindness.

My Question For You

What other examples of random acts of kindness would you like to share?

I have lots of fun on Twitter, so you could send your answer as a tweet. My Twitter ID is Amzy_M. Tag me in the tweet and use the hashtag #BlurredCreations. However, if you don’t have a Twitter account that is fine, please leave your answer in the comment section of this post. 

Love,

Chiamaka.

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Nigeria Turns 54: An African Dream, Still but A Giant In Imbalance

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Dubbed the Giant of Africa, Nigeria gained independence from colonial rule by the British on October 1st, 1960. So, next week Nigeria will be 54!

Encompassing several tribes, Nigeria shines with evident cultural and religious diversity. The country has been known for possessing very economically-vital resources, perhaps the most common of which is crude oil. Nigeria is a country with great potential, some of which, sadly, it is yet to begin to reach. The film industry of Nigeria – Nollywood, has soared tremendous heights in Africa and abroad. Nigeria’s economy recently became the largest in Africa. So, you see, Nigeria is an African Dream. It is a shining light in Africa which not all Nigerians including myself often realize, as for years the nation has been smeared with outrageous corruption among leaders at different levels of government; a huge financial inequity among the population. Also, in very recent years, terrorism has placed the Giant further in imbalance.

The economy of any nation affects the standard of living of members of the population. Nigeria’s economy is performing very much below its potential. Even the report on the milestone that Nigeria reached on becoming Africa’s largest economy acknowledged than more than half of the population are living in poverty.

My fellow Nigerians, possibly like many of you, I have an on-and-off relationship with faith, with regard to my reflections on our nation, Nigeria. However, my consolation has been the realization that you need not be a member of the government or a wealthy person to have power to make change. If members of the public do what is right, they can begin to put an end to vices that have become norms in Nigeria. Positivity and virtue sometimes spread like wildfire. So, if in your personal life you practice fairness, equality and peace, you are consciously or unconsciously moving Nigeria forward. Nigeria is the country, the land with raw materials and resources, the space, it (Nigeria) cannot do anything without the living beings that it consists of.

So, my fellow Nigerians, my hope is that as Nigeria turns 54 on October 1st, 2014, you will celebrate acknowledging the blessed nation that you have been given. It should also be a day of reflection for all concerned Nigerians. A reflection on what we can do in our personal lives to influence the Nigerian community positively, whether you live in Nigeria or are representing abroad. Let me remind you again that every human being possesses power and you decide whether to use your power positively or otherwise. Another reminder is that the government is people and the public is people too. Thus, as you hope (like I hope) for some leaders in the government to start doing what is right for Nigeria and Nigerians, believe in yourself as a member of the public and do what is right and believe that by doing so, you are playing your part in improving Nigeria.

Happy birthday to a country that I will always love and forever believe in – Nigeria!! To my fellow Nigerians, have a happy happy Independence Day.

Love & Peace,

Chiamaka.

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“How Can I Respond?”

Personally, there are certain things that are going on in different parts of the world that make me hopeless for change sometimes, while there is the yearning within me that change should occur. When people complain about vices, they do so because they want a positive reformation. In your anger and sometimes, confusion, find strength to ask yourself – “How can I respond?”

You must not be a politician or a popular entrepreneur to be able to influence change. Every human being possesses powers to amend poor systems for the better. Each person needs to discover his/her own powers. The contributors to the Facebook group Am I Next? (raises awareness on the numerous cases of Aboriginal women getting murdered and going missing in Canada, and calls on the federal government to act), must have come to a realization that power lies within them and that with collective action, a change may come. Protesters in Ferguson have shown so much confidence in what they are defending and in the change that they seek. They have risen to their powers. Non-profit organizations, advocates on social media, everyone reading to get themselves more informed about social justice issues, people that are trying to change their own attitudes in order to influence positive change in their society – all these people have risen to their powers.

Change does start with you. If we do the right things in our personal lives, we are consciously or unconsciously influencing others positively. Your actions toward positive change can never be in vain. The Am I Next movement has so far generated the support of many Aboriginal women. The page has 3,464 members, at the moment. It definitely started with one member. Whoever decided to create the group inspired people to use their power of expression. I can imagine that the Facebook group has given Aboriginal women who have been pondering the question “How can I respond?”, an answer and some faith that change may come – that Aboriginal women will one day, hopefully soon, no longer be susceptible to murder.

The news of protests in Ferguson spread like wildfire on social media. When I see pictures from the protests, I see people who are tired of being executed because of the colour of their skin, because a dirty history of racism in the United States has made them susceptible to violence. I see the protesters in Ferguson as people who have risen to their powers. They are people who understand that black people in America, like  people from any other race, deserve to be treated fairly.

I was yearning to realize the power that I could use to help raise awareness on social justice issues and in the process, bring about positive change as much as I could. Creative writing was the power that I tapped into and based on the feedback that I have been getting, my objectives for this blog are coming into fruition. My friends, tap into your own powers. We can truly make the world a better place, if we start with ourselves.

Love & Peace,

Chiamaka.

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Decluttering May Be Underrated

You probably always experience a feeling of relief when you complete an activity that has been on your mind or on your to-do-list, for some time. The relief that came upon me after I did some decluttering, this week, has been one of the main highlights of my week.

I got rid of both heavy and light university textbooks that I no longer needed, some of which I used back in my 1st year at university; in the process of re-organizing my room, I was able to make space by removing things that were no longer of value to me and some things that I knew that I would never use (e.g. manuals and tutorial CDs). These activities took time and were not easy to get done, however the after-effect of more space brought so much joy to me. Plus, the twist of the organizing process was how it pointed my mind to why decluttering is necessary not just in our homes, but also in our lives.

As human beings, we often practice decluttering (though we may not use that word. I never did till now:)), in our lives and in our relationships with people, including family members. At a point, you decide to stop asking a particular person for advice, you decide to stop going to unwind at a particular place e.t.c The happiness that I got from the decluttering that I did in my apartment, reminded of how happiness is sometimes the outcome when I practice decluttering in my relationships with people and essentially, in my life. Negative and fair-weather friends; your own tendency to stay at places that do not bring you joy; your tendency to patronize a particular store with bad customer service; your tendency to think negative and act negatively to people and so on – need a re-organization. In life, we constantly need to go through re-organizations because we continually meet new people; life brings different situations some of which can change our mindset and we become negative people at some level(s).

How can you declutter in your life? You can reduce the time that you spend with people who often hurt you with negative words and doubt, that is, if you cannot completely cut them off (especially, family members) by not picking their calls and by not contacting them; explore other stores that offer the service that you visit the bad-customer-service store for; when bad situations hit, try as much as you can to start doing those things that make you happy and talk to those positive, uplifting persons who are close to you.

Not allowing people’s negative words and actions easily get to me, and trying to stop making wrong meanings of things that people said or did without meaning to hurt me are major declutter tasks that I have been tackling for some time and I am finally making progress, especially with the former.

What are some declutter tasks that you are completing/have completed on yourself and with regard to your relationships? Let me know!:)

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Chiamaka.

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Lest We Forget

This week was back-to-school for me and during my first class for a course that I am taking this semester, something beautiful happened. Before the professor proceeded with her main address to the class, she reminded us that we were seated on Algonquin land – Indigenous land. She said that not only to revere Canada’s Indigenous peoples who owned the land, but also, to spur gratitude in our heart towards them. Indigenous people are housing us as well as a lot of Ottawarians and non-Indigenous persons, on their land. So, I thought that was an important reminder.

Why do we have to put emphasis on recognizing certain people? – why are there public holidays set aside to recognize certain people?; why does the federal government of Canada hold state funerals for select deceased politicians?; why do people share quotes by certain individuals, on social media? e.t.c.

My conception is that to encourage people, generations and societies; reminders (in whatever form they take) of what fellow persons have said, done or written, are necessary.

On Martin Luther King Jr. Day, I tend to remember the Dream and I feel encouraged for the world. Inspirational quotes can lift you up. When I watch state funerals, the idea of how strong, positive and long-lasting our impact on people and a society could be, is reinforced in me. Hearing/reading information about awardees of a program or an event can motivate you to strive to accomplish lots. During Remembrance Month (November) in Canada, I begin to have an inner appreciation of the fallen soldiers who have defended the country; I also become very aware of how much soldiers, not just Canadian ones, but how much soldiers in general, sacrifice for their country and their fellow citizens. 

Such distinct recognitions and reminders have invaluable effects on people. We humans always need to be encouraged and it is great that through technology which connects us to the global society, and our local societies that recognize some amazing citizens, we can be instantly inspired, encouraged and/or motivated.

My Question For You

– What specific recognition(s) of you and/or other people have inspired you and in what way?

Love,

Chiamaka.

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Government Is People, The Public Is People Too

It is people who stop vices, who change communities and it is also people who make up governments. That is just a reminder that no matter your position in your country, you can look around your community and/or the country and try to help where a change is needed. It is people who make change, whether they are categorized as a government or just as members of the public.

I recently visited my country, Nigeria, after nearly three years of being away in Canada. As I was driven around in Lagos, I was not impressed with a lot of things that I observed. For instance, there were hardly any direction signs in sight; there were little or no traffic controllers (people basically struggle for lanes). Such things made me sad. Especially as I was aware that I was in a country that has so much resources and great potential. Nigeria just lacks enough people in government and even people among the public who are ready to move it forward. A development that is long overdue.

The Nigeria that I grew up in, was one where the federal government was constantly blamed for the near stagnancy of the country. Don’t get me wrong, it is completely normal and actually, very necessary that members of the public keep the government accountable when things are going wrong. Government accountability is a great resource, especially for people who are disadvantaged e.g. the poor and the disabled. If you do not belong to any of those categories, waiting solely on government accountability may become illogical, if you do not act on your own, even in little ways. Again, this is because it is people who make change, whether they are categorized as a government or just as members of the public. Back to the point – most Nigerians blame the government a lot but some of us members of the public also contribute to the pathetic state of the country.

When you see immigration officers helping either people who they know or people who have paid them or both, to skip waiting for long hours to get new or renewed passports, you wonder if the government is the only one to blame. When a woman requests that you help her hold her bag then return it to her after you have successfully passed through the security search point at the airport, you wonder if the government is the only one to blame. When you hear that examination centres are set up with officials, who supply senior high school students with answers, you wonder if the government is the only one to blame. When you observe that a presidential candidate is endorsed not on merit but for the mere fact that he or she and the endorser are from the same tribe or state, you wonder if the government is the only one to blame.

People, human beings can be powerful forces of positive change. We can also be powerful at stagnating progress. The power to choose which category we want to belong to lies within us. I will choose the first option. I want a progressive Nigeria. I want every society that I am affiliated with, to move forward in a positive way. The Nigerian government needs a reformation and so does the public. Entertainers, philanthropists, doctors, lawyers, business people, writers, … just to mention a few; please use your position in the society to convince fellow Nigerians to do what is right for the country. Also, please educate the public on the importance of voting only for political candidates who merit the crown that they want to wear.

Again, it is people who make change, whether they are categorized as a government or just as members of the public.

Love & Peace,

Chiamaka

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What Are You Committing To?

Yesterday, I skimmed through a calendar from my church that was hanging in my parents’ kitchen when I came across the picture of a man who has been working at that church for as long as I can remember. What came to my mind, as I was reflecting on his picture was the word – commitment. He has put hours, months and years of his life into something that he is not in charge of overall and something that he probably does free of charge. I thought: You could only be committed like that to something that you love.

Being committed to the right thing is not always possible with all things that you try your hands at. You can spend years doing a particular thing, before you decide that you are better off being committed to something else. Commitment takes time, effort and in some cases, money – things that should not be wasted. So, it is okay to be using your skills for the wrong person and the wrong job. Sometimes, that suffering is desperately needed e.g to have money to pay bills; but don’t stay doing that for long. Once you are lucky enough to figure out the direction that you need to take in life given your talents and ideas, and the means to achieve your goals, don’t let that opportunity slip away. 

As maturity sets into my life as I grow older, I am figuring out what I want to be committed to. There are certain job opportunities that I see and think – I should use my ability to be committed for another project. I don’t want to waste my time. 

You don’t want to be committed to the wrong program throughout your four years as an Undergraduate student. You don’t want to be committed to a government that violates human rights. You want to use your ideas to help a success-oriented organization achieve its goals. You do not want to keep giving your well-sought ideas out to organizations, businesses and the government, while you are yet to establish financial independence for yourself. Don’t waste your ability to be committed.

Also, since friendships deserve commitment, do not waste your commitment on fair-weather friends and/or on people who bring you down. Friendships deserve love, honesty and loyalty from all people involved in the circle. Thus, do not waste your ability to be committed to such virtues as mentioned above for ‘friends’ who do not seem to reciprocate your goodness.

Commitment is a major key to achieving success. When I read people’s success stories, I see steps of commitment to a purposeful cause. Such people focus their ability to stay committed on the right things when they are lucky to understand what those things should be. If you don’t channel that virtue – the virtue of staying committed, into the right things, how can you change stereotypes, unethical norms, help to change the world, help turn a company’s finances around for good, be a light to people who need encouragement and love? Please channel that virtue to the right things:)

 Love,

Chiamaka.

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